Some of you have probably seen the “We Only Fall in Love with 3 People” article that’s been shared around the social media realm over the past handful of months. I read it when it first came out and it made me start thinking about my past and how I got to where I am today. The theory makes sense to me and I’m going to tell you why.
(Original “3 Love Theory” article below:)
Our first love is an innocent love. It fulfills the fairy tale we’ve had brewing in our heads for years and years. I agree with all of those things. My first love situation is different from most (I’m sure I’ll blog about it soon) and I’m not sure it fits a cookie cutter label, but all in all, I’m on board with the idea behind Love #1.
Love #1 is an important one, but it’s Love #2 that got me hook, line, and sinker.
It’s labeled as “the hard love,” and I couldn’t agree more. That “love” was one of the hardest, most emotionally grueling years of my life. I don’t talk about it much. I don’t really want to. I feel weak even thinking about it. I still can’t believe someone as strong and independent as me became so manipulated. I was a puppet on a string with no way off the stage. I lost touch with who I was and I hated myself for a long time. There’s a part of me that will never fully recover from Love #2. It was an unhealthy, deceitful, abusive relationship and I wouldn’t wish it on my own worst enemy, but one thing is for sure; I learned from it. I learned more about myself and what love actually is than I’ve ever learned before. Just as the article stated, it taught me many lessons about myself and life.
Then came Love #3…”the love that comes so easy it doesn’t seem possible.”
That almost word for word defines my current relationship. He’s my best friend and was my best friend long before he became my boyfriend. He’s the best friend who I accidentally started dating. We’ve known each other for years. We actually didn’t even like each other when we were younger (LOL @ petty high school age drama). As we got older and times changed, so did our relationship. It was the easiest decision I’ve ever made and he’s one of the best things to ever happen to me. It was like every heartache and downfall I experienced led me to him. I knew I had figured out where I was meant to be.
And that’s why I agree with the “3 Love Theory.” Because every phase led me to where I am right now. I say this all the time, but trust in the process. That’s what life is…a process. Have faith in God’s plan and trust in His journey. It all works out how it’s supposed to in the end.
CLB