The key to making a positive change in your life is by finding your motivation to make that change. Once you understand how you cope with expectations and what you need to truly form a habit, you’ll be good to go!
One of the best things I ever did was read Gretchen Rubin’s book, “The Four Tendencies.” Gretchen is a best-selling author, award winning podcast host and master observer of happiness and human nature. Rubin’s theory states that there are four personalities when it comes to meeting expectations: Obligers, Upholders, Rebels and Questioners. After taking her amazing online quiz, I discovered that I’m an Obliger and require accountability to form a habit. This means that I’m more likely to respond to external expectations than the expectations I have inside my head.
For many years I had ridiculed myself for not being able to accomplish certain goals or make life changes. I had gotten mad at myself for not being disciplined enough or I told myself that I simply wasn’t good enough to achieve what I set out to achieve. But once I looked deeper into Rubin’s theory of expectations, I realized that I was just going about my habit changing the wrong way. I now know that accountability is truly the key to my making changes and creating happiness.
For example, if I want to change the way I eat or detox my body, I do best whenever I join a nutrition challenge or recruit friends to detox with me. Whenever I really want to push myself in a workout, I go take a class at my local CrossFit gym or call up my buddies to train with me at my home gym. Whenever I’m tired after a long weekend of coaching, it’s a lot easier for me to meal prep when I know that my boyfriend is depending on me to make him healthy lunches for his workdays during the week. All of this accountability helps to keep me motivated and push me to achieve my goals!
You don’t necessarily have to take this quiz or read this book to find out what motivates you (although I do recommend it), but you do need to do some soul searching to figure out what makes you tick.
Maybe you want to be able to run and play with your grandkids when they’re old enough so you decide to take care of your body and join a gym. Maybe you want to be able to start a college fund for your first born so you work hard for a promotion to help make that happen.
No matter what your WHY is, it’s important that you find that WHY to fuel your fire. If you want to form a new habit or make a positive change in your life, find your WHY and then plan out your HOW. It’s amazing the impact a few simple steps can have on your life!
Happy Motivation Monday! 🙂 I want to know what motivates you! Let me know in the comments below. Did you take Gretchen Rubin’s quiz? If so, what tendency are you?